The Do's and Don'ts of Being Single During the Holidays Howard Beach NY

All that tinsel, holiday music and ads for the perfect gift--it's enough to make the happiest of us feel the pressure of shopping, wrapping, decorating and returning.  Imagine how it feels when you're going through tough economic times. 

Now add being single, divorced or unhappy in love and having to answer the yearly question:  What are you doing for the holidays?  Be careful before you answer.  This seemingly casual inquiry often hides a trick question, even from caring family and friends, to pry into your love life--or lack of it.

Don't despair.  Yes, not having a good partner during the holiday season can intensify feeling alone in a crowd. The solution is to take charge of your unhappiness and use your discomfort with this time of year to motivate you to make changes.  Here's a quick list of the most common "blue in love at the holidays" issues and a Do and Don't List.

Issue 1: "There's something wrong me because I don't have a partner-or anyone I want to bring to family and friend gatherings." 

Do

List your positive qualities and review them.

Tell your family and friends ahead of time not to ask you about your live life or situation.

Don't

Don't measure your whole self by a few things such as being single.

Don't compare yourself to siblings, cousins and friends who have partners.  After all, you don't really know what's going on with them...

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