Why Some Women Cannot Orgasm Beacon NY
Why Some Women Cannot Orgasm
If you have trouble attaining orgasm, you're far from alone. Surveys show that about a quarter of American women report they have some sort of orgasm related problems. Some women say they can't have one at all, which is called anorgasmia, while others can only get close but can't seem to climax.
The problem may sometimes lie in the fact that women are not familiar with their own bodies, says psychosexual therapist and couples counselor Sara Nasserzadeh, author of "The Orgasm Answer Guide."
"The most common reason why women say they can't is that they don't have any idea about how to pleasure themselves," she says. "But the education we receive has to do with reproduction and all the things that can go wrong with the reproductive system, not about the pleasure in it."
But, says Cindy Meston, co-author of Why Women Have Sex, "The good news is that almost all women can have orgasms. They just have to learn how to have one."
Why It Doesn't Happen
Among the many reasons for orgasm trouble are smoking, obesity, cardiovascular disease and certain antidepressants. As women get older, they may be affected by the simple biology of menopause when a woman' s levels of estrogen and testosterone drop off.
But there's more to the picture than physical causes. "The biggest orgasm killer is anxiety about sex," Meston says. "If a woman is having body image concerns, that makes it hard. Instead of thinking of the pleasurable sensations, they are thinking about whether their butt is too big. And anything that is distracting will impair a woman's ability to have an orgasm."..
